From Survival Mode to Freedom
Welcome to Self To Be, the transformative platform dedicated to guiding you beyond the cycles of narcissistic abuse, generational trauma, and emotional manipulation!
Introducing Our New Community Launch
Self To Be's new Freedom Collective is born from the need for a community that understands how hard it is to break out of abusive relationships and generational trauma cycles. This is a place to share resources and join like minded people that can relate to how you feel, first hand.
"I felt really alone when I started realizing that I was trapped in a trauma bond and living with an abusive partner. I had no one to talk to. I am here to help others get through it quicker than I did, and to not feel alone." - Deb, Founder
Recovering from abuse is confusing and can leave us feeling stuck in life. Together, the path to true freedom and abundance is easier to navigate.
This entire site is created by me, Deb Murphy. I welcome you to explore around, and check out my new Self to Be publication and personal articles on Medium.
A dedicated space to step out of survival mode, explore experiences, and rewrite your story alongside a community committed to peace, autonomy, and lasting freedom.
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A Three-Part Path to Healing
Moving you from the exhaustion of survival to the peace of freedom.
Read what has worked for others through therapeutic fiction and relatable personal narratives, and learn to write your own (if you like).
Become part of our community. You are not alone.
Learn Mindshift Meditation hacks and micro-meditations to get out of survival mode and train your nervous system to be calm. We delete old programs and rewrite our operating system for joy and freedom.
Claim self-authority to end the cycle of manipulative toxic relationships and generational trauma. Find your voice, set real boundaries, and step into the freedom of your true self. You deserve happiness.
As seen on Medium — Join 20,000+ viewers each month reclaiming their voice.
Latest Self To Be Articles
Recent posts from our Medium publication
Therapeutic fiction that helps you recognize toxic relationship patterns and reclaim your power.
Healing happens when we stop wondering if we're crazy and start trusting that our instincts were right all along.
Abbi, a single mom, thought she'd found "the one," but what felt like perfect compatibility was actually masterful manipulation.
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Discover love-bombing, mirroring, and emotional abuse as they unfold in this true-to-life therapeutic fiction.
Not Just a Story—A Complete Self-Healing Course.
The Reflection Trap is the first book in the Self To Be series, blending story with a practical healing toolkit. It's designed to help you recognize covert emotional manipulation and start healing immediately.
Spot Red Flags Early: Decode love-bombing, gaslighting, and the Six-Stage Manipulation Cycle.
Trust Your Gut: Understand your body's nervous-system signals when something feels "off."
Calm Anxiety & Reclaim Control: Use provided meditations and exercises to start healing.
Set Boundaries & Protect Your Peace: Develop scripts and Mindshift tools to stop guilt-based control.
Rebuild Self-Worth: Heal the trauma bond and create relationships rooted in respect and calm.
Recognize the Red Flags. Reclaim Your Power. Heal for Good.
Coming Soon
Abbi breaks the toxic patterns she realizes were established in her childhood as we follow her healing journey from victim to survivor and thriver. No more toxic relationships for her.
The story doesn't end with recognizing the trap, it ends with breaking free and reclaiming your life.
"Deb's books could be genuinely life-changing for readers who are in similar situations but can't see it clearly yet. Sometimes fiction can reach people in ways that self-help books can't - they get pulled into the story and suddenly recognize their own patterns reflected back at them."
-Claudia N., Relationship Coach
