Healing happens when we stop wondering if we're crazy and start trusting that our instincts were right all along.
About the Author
Meet Deb Murphy
Author, Meditation Teacher, Founder of Self To Be
My journey to writing therapeutic fiction didn't begin in a classroom or workshop, it began in the lived reality of toxic relationships that left me questioning my own sanity. As an empath who spent years navigating manipulative partners, I understand the confusion, self-doubt, and isolation that comes with emotional abuse.
Here's what I've learned: You're not broken. You don't have bad luck. You were targeted.
Why I Write These Stories
After my own healing journey, I realized that traditional self-help books, while valuable, often felt clinical, detached, and hard to focus on. What I wanted during my darkest moments was a story that showed me I wasn't alone; characters who made the same mistakes I did, who felt the same confusion, and who ultimately found their way to freedom.
The Self To Be series was born from this need.
These aren't just romance novels or cautionary tales; they're therapeutic fiction designed to help you recognize manipulation tactics before you're trapped, validate your experiences without judgment, and show you that healing is not only possible but inevitable.
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My Mission
I believe that every person who has survived a toxic relationship has the potential to help others recognize the red flags they wish they'd seen.
Through Self To Be, I'm creating a community where:
Recognition comes through relatable storytelling
Validation replaces self-blame and confusion
Healing happens through seeing your own journey reflected in fiction
Empowerment grows from understanding you're not alone
More about Deb:
Professional Background
With over 25 years in technical writing, aviation maintenance, electronics, and engineering, I bring a unique analytical approach to understanding manipulation patterns. My technical background helps me break down complex psychological concepts into clear, recognizable patterns that readers can easily identify.
Meditation & Mindfulness
As the founder of Mindshift Meditation, I've spent over 20 years exploring the intersection of mindfulness, movement, and healing. My training in Tai Chi, Qi Gong, martial arts, and energy healing informs my understanding of trauma recovery and nervous system regulation—essential elements in healing from toxic relationships.
Writing & Communication
My expertise in ghostwriting and content strategy means I know how to craft stories that resonate deeply. Whether I'm helping CEOs find their voice or creating characters who mirror your own experiences, my goal is always the same: authentic connection that creates transformation.
The Personal Side
As a single mom building this entire platform myself (yes, I handle the writing, web development, DNS setup, graphic design, and everything in between), I understand the challenge of rebuilding your life after manipulation. Some days are harder than others, but every day is a choice to keep moving from who I was to who I'm becoming.
Self To Be captures the healing journey from a diminished sense of self to reclaiming who you truly are.
Let's Connect
Whether you're just beginning to question a relationship, deep in the healing process, or ready to help others on their journey, I'd love to connect with you. I also offer coaching services for those looking for structured support and guidance.
Email: deb[at]murphyfreelance.com
Phone: 501-238-1593
Articles: @MurphyFreelance on Medium
Professional Services: murphyfreelance.com
Meditation Practice: mindshiftmeditation.com
Copyright 2025 Deb Murphy, MurphyFreelance.com, DebMurphy.com
Healing happens when we stop wondering if we're crazy and start trusting that our instincts were right all along.
The Reflection Trap
Coming Summer 2025
Follow Abbi, a single mom who thinks she's found "the one" after an incredible six-hour phone call. But what feels like perfect compatibility is actually masterful manipulation. Experience love-bombing, mirroring, and emotional abuse as they unfold in painfully familiar ways.
Red Flags Covered: Love-bombing, mirroring, boundary violations, silent treatment punishment
What You'll Learn: How predators study and reflect your dreams back to you
Breaking Free
Coming Fall 2025
Abbi's healing journey from victim to survivor to thriver. Because the story doesn't end with recognizing the trap, it ends with breaking free and reclaiming your life.
Find out when the next story drops.
